Grey, in no way do I mean to minimize that yours or anyone else's issues crop up and really throw us for a loop for a time. What I mean to say is, yes, we do at times need to deal with crises that sometimes come do due to BPD. I won't deny that but thing is, when all is settled and the dust falls back to the ground, do we keep focusing on BPD and it's problems or move on and get on with our lives? I see a lot of people not just on pc but everywhere - stuck, like a 4 wheeler that gets stuck in the mud, unable to move, spinning it's wheels and burning out the engine. In the same way we'll do the same, spinning our wheels and end up burnt out. defeated.