I don't see why you wouldn't have any attraction to a girl you see. Despite your issues, you are a normal male otherwise! I can't say having a girlriend will solve all your problems (who knows), but I agree that it would be fine for you to check her out to see if she is in a serious relationship, and if not, then if you could get together for lunch or a visit. And then go from there. I am glad you are finding someone you are interested in!