While for the most part I see what em is saying, I personally don't mean to imply that it is wallowing in misery so much as it is just plain being stuck. I mean wallowing kind of implies that one is intentionally remaining in the depression or negativity and I don't believe that's always the case, which partially is my point of this post.

Sometimes we can be just plain focused too much on our disorder, that in turn it makes us remain with our grim outlook on life and our behaviors. I think this is a tendency especially in the beginning after finding out you have a diagnosis of bpd. We start to see everything through the disorder and I don't think we mean to. It just happens. I'm just suggesting being proactive to break free if you find yourself stuck there. And this is not unique to bpd. I find it relates to every Dx out there..