Kudos to you PFM!

I think that you did a wonderful job at putting your feelings across to your brother in an open and honest way. Rather than tip-toeing around, nor were you offensive. Good job!

Regarding your brother's quick response to you, I can understand how you might be feeling even more emotional now. That is understandable.

Your brother did understand what you were requesting for your wedding, and he is respecting that in your honor. I'd recommend focusing on that aspect of his message to you. After all, you have a lot going on with wedding plans. Lots of little things to think about, plan for, etc. Try to just stay present in the moment. Weddings are beautiful, joyous occasions ~ a big beginning of your new life; where that truly becomes your main focal point.

Other family members and friends are still a part of your life afterwards, yes, but not to the same extent. There is a significant difference. That's special. To me, it was a relief to let go of my family! lol

These are all issues that you can bring up in T ~ now or after the wedding. Your choice. Gentle hugs to you & best wishes on your upcoming wedding!