I have only been a member of PC since start of the month. I use this forum a lot as I have BPD or I prefer the more current term that is used… Emotional Vulnerability Disorder. It is a more gentle… in my opinion.

I cannot say I have witnessed people blaming 'everything' on their disorder. However, I am not even here a month yet.

I think for me anyway when I attribute other issues to my Emotional Vulnerability (BPD)…such as depression, eating disorders, major anxiety, alcohol abuse and others. These are co-morbid among people with the disorder. Obviously, not everyone will experience these, however, a higher percentage of people with this disorder will experience these pervasive co-morbidities.

I think this forum is a good place for people to share their experiences…

Everyone is at different stages, some people may have learned more effective coping mechanisms, others may not, or like me they may have learned more effective strategies but not always feel able to use them. In my case, this is especially true in times of crisis…the time when I need there coping skills the most. I find that is the hardest time to use skills.

So, yes, maybe some people are stuck…however, this could be attributed to lack of effective coping mechanisms or not using them? I genuinely don't think people want to focus on the 'bad' all the time. Maybe, that is what they are feeling and just want to share and know they are not alone.

Not sure I am making much sense here.

I am just trying to say I don't think people are relating 'everything' to their disorder. From what I have witnessed thus far is people talking about other issues in their lives which could possibly be co-morbid to BPD.

I empathise with s4 and your depression following your divorce, I can't even begin to imagine how painful that must be and how you became depressed. However, I think it is also important to bear in mind that some of us have depression…I mean pervasive depression. I applaud you in your positivity and you fighting spirit…it is most certainly encouraging. Once again, we are all at different stages etc.

When I was first diagnosed, I learned that these other mental health issues that I have been experiencing most of my life are common co-morbid conditions to BPD.

I hope I have made some bit of sense? Thanks for this thread.