It is actually our changing when we tell other people what they can do to better support us-- at least for me, it is a change rather than to expect that they read my mind or otherwise just swallow my feelings about a lack of support.

It is great, though, when a T or anyone is able to do things differently so that we can get more of what we need or want.

But therapy can't really be about changing someone else-- in part that just isn't possible, and besides, why would anyone pay to have someone else change? Sort of like I'm going to pay to watch you eat my breakfast.