Simon, I'm so sorry your family is in such turmoil. I grew up with that kind of chaos & violence. I separated myself from my family when I was about 20. I haven't seen one brother (the violent drug-user one) in over 30 years! He was causing me too much pain & I was afraid of him. He was violent with his wife & we (my husband & 2 kids) took her in for awhile, but she went back to him. After that, I just decided that it was not good for my kids to witness all this stuff & it was detrimental to my (shaky at best) mental health. Is there any way you can get away from all this violence & drama?--Suzy