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Originally Posted by beautifulfreak
I think this forum is a good place for people to share their experiences…
Everyone is at different stages, some people may have learned more effective coping mechanisms, others may not, or like me they may have learned more effective strategies but not always feel able to use them. In my case, this is especially true in times of crisis…the time when I need there coping skills the most. I find that is the hardest time to use skills.
So, yes, maybe some people are stuck…however, this could be attributed to lack of effective coping mechanisms or not using them? I genuinely don't think people want to focus on the 'bad' all the time. Maybe, that is what they are feeling and just want to share and know they are not alone.
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Sure, it's easy to blame BPD for all my troubles, but I have thought about this a lot, and I don't think I do and I don't think most of us on this forum do. I'm not being defensive (well, maybe a tiny bit) but I think I use the Dx as an explanation for the way I think (which is to strain everything through a negative filter), the intensity of my emotions (which seem to be more reactive and intense than anybody else I know), and yes, sometimes my behavior. I really like the name Emotional Vulnerability/Dysregulation Disorder because it is descriptive.
I quote Beautifulfreak because I agree that this is a place to share experiences, ask questions and vent in order to seek out support, especially when outside support is scarce or nonexistent, and learn what coping mechanisms have worked for others. I think we all get stuck at various times, and this is when we need support more than ever, because being stuck is a primer for the self-loathing to kick in, and then there's a spiraling downward. (No, self-loathing is not necessarily a BPD trait, but it seems fairly common in this forum.)
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Originally Posted by nevergoodenough
On the inside I'm very much dead. Only reason I'm not is because I'm a coward. And as much as I appreciate everyone here, a website is not going to help me. I'm here because I have no where else to go, not because I think it's going to help.
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I very much feel like this right now. I, too, very much appreciate when I get support from the forum, but when I get so depressed that I want to be dead, I keep quiet and to myself. I berate myself because I have nowhere else to go and think this kind of reaching out is not going to help. And yet I keep coming back because there are times when I feel like sharing... and because I have nowhere else to go.
I hope this doesn't sound like a rant. I don't know if I've made any sense, either. Aaargh.