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Originally Posted by doggiedo
How do you know if you are straight, gay or bisexual? I only ask because I'm in my thirties, female and have always been with guys. I was married right after graduate school and explored porn with my husband (who is now my ex), and I think female porn turns me on more than anything else.
I find women beautiful and am attracts to specific body parts. I am currently divorced and have been dating guys, and have never dated women. I don't picture myself with a woman as I get older, but I picture myself with a man, having a family, etc. I just think women's beautiful. I don't really get excited about the idea of dating women-it actually terrifies me! I just feel more comfortable with men.
So, am I gay since I masterbate to women? Or am I bi since I like men and women? But idk if I'd ever date a woman, so maybe it's just a physical attraction? I'm welcome to your suggestions as to what I am ? I'm just a little confused.
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Hi doggiedo,
I can understand your feelings of confusion. It took me several years to come to the realisation that I was gay, after quite a few years of dating only males.
In order to try to work things out, I spoke to a variety of people - a gay male friend, a gay female friend of a friend who I emailed over quite a long time (she lived in a different part of the country), an LGBTI Helpline many times and my GP. I read as much about sexual orientation as I could, too. It was all so long ago, though - there would be much more information and more human resources available now that/who could help you.
After I finally acknowledged to myself that I was gay, I found a social group which I joined and the rest is history.
Try not to stress about it all too much. You'll work it out eventually.
With regard to people who identify as bisexual, from what I've read and friends of mine who identify as such, they don't express a need to have both male and female partners in their lives at the same time. Being bisexual just means that they are attracted to both males and females, but when in a relationship with someone they are monogamous and are very happy to remain so.
Bluey
