Older an wiser. Toys maybe. He can use them on you you know. Would you both be willing to do that. Some guys are quite content to do that for you. toys for you to use alone maybe. Let him help choose or involve him in the decision making. My H and I have no issues w/ toys for one another. I like what I like, he likes what he likes. As long Is I keep him informed about my doings and he of his, we have no problems.