I know just what you mean James
And to add to that complaining point:
I firmly believe that if you stay with someone that is not good for you and you do nothing to try and improve your situation, you relinquish any right to complain...made your bed and all. Just like with people who refuse to vote but moan about the government.

Its not that I have no sympathy, I'll even support you the first few times you complain, but thereafter you're on your own mate. ...(so to speak).

People dont know what its like when they moan about husband and wives and the people listening have only emptiness to compare it to. They forget how lucky they are. I'd choose a loving husband who leaves the toilet seat up over nothingness any day.