Exactly Hammy, especially when they don't hold themselves to the same standards. Being "good" or confident does not exactly point to " must be really experienced" either.

Riotgirl also said it well.

If you are not living up to the standard you hold others too, maybe the problem lies with you? You don't own her and she is not a possesion, she is a person and a sexual being in her own right independatly of a man.

That might sound harsh, but your post is harsh and seems a bit arrogant to say you could have any women and have had many but question her over her one previous. You also engaged in sex early on, she certainly didn't do it alone. Maybe time to focus more on yourself and less on her, figure why you feel this is a fair or just way to evaluate a female? So the men can sleep with whomever, but not marry them..after all they are not virgins. If all the women upheld and stuck to this value with whom would the men be sleeping with then? But I am sure the men have not complained about that part..untill the women actually start following this guide as well ( I am certain complaints would follow if they did ) Seems the women can't win in this situation either way.

By the way..every culture is unique..and none are without flaw.

"However I always had issues, mostly not on my end, due to our culture issues" ...You might want to think about that. The common denominator in that statement is you! Are you going to be part of the culture issue or not?

And no people do not do everything their friends do...that should be obvious. People are individuals not carbon copies.