I will tell you a funny story with a morale at the end. It is going to be long, but I cannot make it shorter without losing the punchline.

In December, I went on a date with a 34-year-old East Indian guy from a dating site.

I do not remember if it was my first or second or third formal date but definitely not above third. All the other guys in my life in the past popped up on their own somehow, so it was the first time I was trying to use a more structured and formal approach to partner finding.

The guy was good looking, polite, and basically OK... but then he told me that he was divorced, that his wife cheated on him twice during their 1.5 year long marriage, and first he was devastated because he had expectations of an exclusive relationship and did not get what he expected, but then he went into therapy for 9 months, spending $10K on therapy, and recovered...

I am Russian by origin and I have to literally translate a Russian expression into English because I otherwise cannot explain what happened to me when he said it.

Translating from Russian literally, "I lost the gift of speech".

I am in that way the exact opposite of you in that you are nosy about the sexual past of your partners and I think that this kind of disclosure on the first date was too much information and I never required or expected to know this much about his private life in the past. I expected small talk and some information about neutral topics, such as his job and education. He was unable to articulate what he does on the job - he works for a biotech company but he was unable to explain what he does - and could not say what degrees he got. So he somehow failed to provide neutral and expected information but instead informed me of his therapy bills. You can be sure that it was the last time I saw him.

When I recovered the gift of speech to some degree, I realized that I needed to say something, because the pause was getting too long. The only thing that came to my mind was to inquire whether the ex wife was Indian as well.

She was not. She was a Christian woman from Lebanon. The Indian guy told me that before marriage she would not have premarital sex with him due to her religious beliefs. She was very strict about it.

I found it extremely amusing that a woman would be so strict about premarital sex but then jump into extramarital sex immediately or almost immediately after the wedding. So at least I got a funny story out of the date.

The morale for you is even if you find a girl from your culture who is a true virgin and who would not, using your words, "give herself so soon", it would do absolutely nothing in terms of predicting her future behavior, and based on your overall approach, you seem to want to be her only partner (correct me if I am wrong).

The right analogy from the money markets is "Past Performance is Not Necessarily Indicative of Future Results".

Best of luck.