Sometimes I think self help means I have to do things myself, become more "independent" and "tough" but then I remember it actually means people working, often in a group like this, to figure out ways to solve problems. The "self" part just means working on one's own problems, which are going to be slightly unique/different from other people's, but that the means of working on them don't have to be that much different. So, one can work on working on one's problems with others and get a friendly, supportive, group thing happening. "Self" doesn't mean working alone and lonely!