I've written up a list that highlights some of my self-destructive habits:

1. Ruminate on your unhappy childhood & past hurts.

2. Blame others.

3. Don't accept responsibility for your own decisions.

4. Surround yourself with other unhappy, unfulfilled, whiny people.

5. Don't try even small steps in a positive direction.

6. Believe that you can't. You're handicapped in some way.

7. Pamper your low self-worth with destructive habits--overeating, drinking, not exercising.

8. Be lazy.

9. Take your anger & frustration out on your spouse. Then blame him for your cold marriage.

10. Avoid real communication. Deny your faults. Ask questions that you won't like the answers to & get upset.

11. Follow in your parents' footsteps.

12. Feed jealous thoughts.

I've had a lot of practice in all these areas.--Suzy