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Originally Posted by poptart316
I'm very novelty seeking when it comes to relationships, I tend to date guys who I feel have interesting careers/lifestyles. I've dated a lot of musicians.. they can be interesting/exciting but often times make terrible boyfriends.. but I can't get past it, everyone else seems so subpar. Things are either really exciting to the point where it's overwhelming and I can't get comfortable.. or I'm totally bored/disinterested. I'm not sure how to get over my ex.. he had his masters in physics and was also a musician... like he was so angry and passionate and channeled it all into intellectual and creative pursuits, it was beautiful to me. He was also introverted/socially awkward like me but learned how to manage it.. he could recognize that he just didn't like people and he didn't care. Not only that we had amazing chemistry. :X No one else comes close to comparison.. I kind of give up.
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I dated a drummer on and off for 10+ years (mostly on, until I would meet someone else and call it off because he was never "there" enough for me, in all senses of the word)...and he was also a HUGE narcissist. And very very extroverted; I'm not. Personality difference are hard to get over. They can be exciting at first and cause problems later.
And yes, I have found exciting to be inconsistent sometimes? I am not sure if you mean that or not as well, but that has caused me discomfort. And your ex...bright and talented and creative is often very interesting, but it sounds like he might be just difficult to handle and very painful for you. I am sorry you are finding it so hard to get over with him. Have you talked to a therapist about it at all?
And you sound too young to give up! You will probably find the person for you when you least expect it.