Hi "pickle" ~ Bless your heart -- your post gave me a huge lump in my throat. I rarely cry. I think that if I do, I'll never stop.

Grief is a personal and private thing. NO ONE - and I repeat -- NO ONE has the right to tell you how you should grieve. Like Bebop said, everyone does it in their own time and in their own way. Some people can just slide through it, while other may take years to get over it. But really, we never "get over" the loss of someone. We just get through it. The people we lose are still in our hearts, regardless of how long they've been gone.

I lost my husband 12 years ago, but he still remains in my heart. He will ALWAYS be there just as your Nan will be in your heart.

Your mother has NO right to tell you how you should grieve. I think you need to RESPECTFULLY but FIRMLY tell her that she needs to allow you to grieve in your OWN way, and in your OWN time and to just back off! By her constant nagging about it, she's just made your more determined to grieve your own way anyway. Besides, it's your life and she needs to leave you alone!

I wish you the very best --- please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your dear Nan. I know you're hurting. Please be good to yourself -- and God bless you. Hugs, Lee