I was recently diagnosed with a lot of BPD traits, however I can't identify with self loathing and self harm part which I believe most other sufferers have issues with so does that make me a fake BPD? I am by no means narcissistic but I pity myself and the inner child in me more so I really don't want to hurt her anymore that what she's going through. I also don't depend on any drugs, food or alcohol but I was very promiscuous in my 20's but I somehow overcame that habit. I am now 31.