What Leed said. I mean it sounds as though you love him a lot and he loves you, in so many ways you seem to have a great relationship that I would think it would be worthwhile to really dig deep to figure out what is causing your husband's sexual dysfunction. I'm guessing it hasn't always been like this and if he's embarrassed by it, I imagine he might be willing to get the full work up if he hasn't already for the sake of his health and your relationship