Well, we were just curious. My way has been to keep it to a "need to know" basis. Only the closest and most trusted friends and family. That cuts way down on the pet peeve reactions.
I'm sorry you've had such bad reactions. Most people are not really sensitive and wise enough to have a helpful reaction. Some of those don't really seem so bad but not knowing your illness or the context or tone of voice I could be wrong.
My MI isn't so obvious. That presents it's own set of problems.