Healing is definitely scary. It is everything we don't know. I sometimes wonder if I'll be the same person that I am if I don't have my 'baggage' or if I won't be anything. Staying stuck comes without any expectation and no chance of failure and, after everything people go through in life, those seem like pretty good odds if you haven't had the best life. We don't gain anything though and we miss out on a lot. I'm definitely not in a healing place yet, but I really, really, hope to be one day. I think knowing that you're stuck is half the battle...definitely.