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Originally Posted by seriynochi
I was in a romantic relationship with another borderline for 3-4yrs. Worst relationship I've ever been in - we fed off each other, triggered each other, etc. It was horrible. Would not recommend unless both parties are well into recovery.
I have a few friends who are borderline as well - we are all in different stages of our disorder. I distance myself sometimes when I don't want to ride along with their turbulence, if that makes sense. Boundaries are very important.
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I look back on a relationship I had now that if I knew I was BPD and he was as well at the time, I would have so kept my distance from it being intimate and personal. As friends, yes I have a few and it works. We are supportive when we need to be and understand each others' distances very well so we don't get all bent out of shape when we need it.
As intimate and personal, heck no will I ever do that again. In the same way above, we fed off each other to no end and we so triggered each other in the worst possible way. it could have gotten much worse in an intense way had I not realized something really terribly wrong was happening and that I needed to get out.
Hope this helps you.   
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