Also, I cannot imagine that he is feeling his "normal self" in light of his father's illness. I know that you are upset with his family, but still, it is his father. That's likely one of the most important people in his life, regardless of what wrongs have been done. He may be someone that deals with grief and sorrow by stuffing them down, becoming hardened, or putting up a wall. Can you tell us more about his behaviour as of late?