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Old Mar 28, 2013, 02:11 PM
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Originally Posted by Mindinpieces View Post
if they tell them what they need to tell them they are accused of not wanting to get better and made to fill worse...

How do you cover come this without getting made to feel even worse for letting such things out...
I was struck by this phrase you used twice, "made to feel worse." That suggests the therapist is making you feel a certain way. I've been reading a book lately that challenges how we often ascribe our feelings to other people. The message is that we are in charge of our feelings, not others. Viewing things differently can give us more power in a situation, instead of saying it is another's doing that we feel bad. I don't think I'm very good at putting this into practice, but your choice of words, twice, just really leapt out at me. What did your therapist say to you that "made you feel worse"? If you shared that, maybe others could say how they might have reacted differently so they didn't feel bad. It might point a different path.
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