Sometimes at the beginning of therapy feeling like you have to fill the needs of the therapist is stronger than your own, but after a period of time, that needs to be worked through so that you know that the period of time is yours and fully what you want and need, not to be determined by someone else (or our feelings about what we think they want).

Sometimes at a different phase in therapy this issue will come up again and again need to be worked out. Like all relationships, the therapeutic one will change over time and need to be adjusted.

But if what you are actually saying is that you feel so inhibited from expressing your needs because you think the therapist will judge you as not being willing to work on things, then something seems to being going wrong somehow. I just don't have enough to go on so am guessing and speculating mostly.

I can say that with some issues that are very deep and traumatic and formative, they repeat as issues at different times and for different reasons. So even if I've dealt with them before or have made changes about them, the fact that they repeat doesn't really mean I haven't the right to bring them up. My therapist expects that themes in our lives that were important in defining parts of us will come up though perhaps in a kind of cone-shaped view of history, where you arrive at the same place but you are actually located a few levels above and things have substantially widened in the meantime.

Don't know if anything I typed makes sense or helps. Just some impressions.