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Originally Posted by bos314489
I was divorced 2 years ago and moved back to my hometown to be near my family. My first love from 20 years ago also lives here and we have not seen or spoken to each other for that long. He is separated from his wife and we have started to see each other again. I am having a lot of anxiety about this because I never expected my feelings to come back so strongly for him and I feel like I am falling in love all over again. I told him in the beginning I didn't think it was a good idea to see each other since he has only been separated 2 months but insists they are getting a divorce. Anyway, I am in deep now and I really don't want for him to break my heart again so I don't know what to do. I have been encouraging him to seek counseling with his wife to work it out as they have 2 children but he says he is not interested in doing that. He hasn't said anything to me about any feelings he may have for me still, so I am acting very casual as well. I just find myself thinking about him too much and don't know what to do. What do you think?
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I do not think that you can will yourself into thinking about him less than you think of him on your own.
You should not encourage him to seek counseling or discourage him from seeking counseling - he is an adult man and he should be able to deal with those issues on his own. You should not worry about the wellbeing of his 2 children either - the children have both living parents and the parents have the duty to worry about the children's wellbeing. Unless he explicitly asks you to worry about the children's wellbeing, you should not. If he asks, then maybe, but not automatically, either.