Endoftheworld, 55 yr old male here. Your best sex years are yet to come.
I have a question for you. Are you intimate with your partner prior to trying to having sex.
Meaning a lot of foreplay. Do you get turned on? Because for me... that is the catalyst. And if I'm turned on. I'm going to get an erection.
And being angry, frustrated and disappointed with life. Isn't going to help
But this is your biggest problem, your compulsive masturbation habit to porn.
You've got nothing left to give. Or you expect porno sex from your partner.
And you will meet lovers that are that way. But most people are not.
Lose the porn, learn some abstinence, and you will be more than ready for intercourse.
My 2c... good luck
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Originally Posted by endoftheworld
Something I have thought about - whether my **** being large and of that heavy type actually takes more "effort" to maintain....you see I've noticed say with average erect penises around 5-6" inches, they all stand up nicely and firmly and they are maintained for a decent duration. That DOES NOT happen with mine and yeah I'm wondering whether it is because mine is infact too large which means I need more bloodflow down there which means more arousal required..?? I'm not sure. It could be this OR my compulsive masturbation habit to porn. I'm used to being stimulated by pictures mostly. Do you think this has caused me to be desensitized over time?? I have been trying to stop both masturbating and porn now for quite some time or reduce the frequency. It's not easy though if you're celibate.
Anyway, my other concern is this....as someone who has not had penetrative sex, I'm starting to panic and think have I just missed the best years of sex...? I've heard from 30 onwards, you start to have various challenges like the erection issues, more arousal needed etc etc. Is this true? I don't know how old you guys are but if someone older could tell me how has sex been throughout the decades? From your 20s to your 30s through to your 40s?
I guess I'm worried I feel like I've missed out, been robbed of something great because of my own fears due to my faith plus other factors possibly. Hence why I mentioned I feel suicidal at times over this. I'm angry, frustrated and disappointed with life. I know sex isn't everything and there is more to life but that's not an easy thing to accept if you get to my age and still haven't "done the deed."
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