Appreciate the words of encouragement, but here's the problem: the courts HAVEN'T gotten wise to him, and, unless they actually READ the filings, they never will. In the last go-round, his new attorney even lies for him.

Here's an example: in CA, a year ago, he sued for custody and visitation, claiming I abused and neglected the kids. The court ordered a full psych eval for the whole family. Kids and I participated -- 14 hours worth, $3600. He never showed up...(we knew he wouldn't). Five months into the battle, he drops ALL of his motions EXCEPT the ones dealing with financial issues (he didn't want to pay as much child support as was ordered).

He whines about how he can't afford to proceed on all counts, so that he voluntarily gave up child custody and agreed to abide by the no-contact. Now we find out that WHILE HE WAS STILL PROCEEDING ON THE California action, he simultaneously gets another attorney in Washington (where we'd moved back to). And, four months later, he's back in court, now suing for FULL CUSTODY -- using the same old "evidence" we'd refuted the last time around.

Now, here's where it gets funny. In his first filing, he claims I have mental problems because he claims I saw "a Dr. So-and-so" for psychiatric eval and since there seemed to be no report issued, he wonders what I could be covering up. This is in the court record. Turns out this "Dr So-and-so" happens to be the one the court ordered ALL of us to see -- where he didn't show up. He makes it sound like he has NO CLUE who this guy is or why I'd be seeing him. Well, we have ALL the records as to who we saw, when, and why, of course so it's idiotic that he'd make this up.

When we respond saying, "Uh, remember this is the guy YOU were supposed to have seen with us?" he replies in his NEXT court filing that, not only does he remember who the Dr. is, but he had several lengthy conversations with him! Well, Mr. Ex-husband...which time WERE you lying then?

He's either delusional beyond all comprehension or intentionally misleading the court. Or, both.Yet, what's the net result? NOW we have a Guardian at litem ordered by the court to "objectively" determine what the situation is with my kids. They're happy as clams, don't want anything to do with their father, yet I keep having to defend myself as being a good mother. The court DOESN'T call BS on his nonsense (this is only ONE of the many lies he's told in his "signed under penalty of perjury" filings), and they keep being allowed to bleed me dry, financially and emotionally.

He killed our kids three guinea pigs (these kids are now 10, 7 and 5), admitted to allowing them to die of neglect. When I discovered it (I let myself into the house one day, unknown to them) they had decomposed to the point that they were completely integrated into their bedding. The stench was so horrible! All he did was close the inside door to the hallway and open the exterior window. And, these animals "lived" in the room adjoining the home office. He lived with them, in the house, that way for MONTHS. And, worse is that, all this time they were dead, he tells the kids about how he's taking such good care of their precious pets and is "playing with them every day."

He's ADMITTED to this under oath. But, now his attorney claims that the animals were "in a remote part of the house" and were "accidentally" overlooked. She makes it sound like we had some 8000 sq ft mansion!

He's a computer security expert and has created anonymous emails to harass me, my friends, family and business associates. He's put up harassing websites which defame me personally, and ruin my professional reputation. He's "anonymously" sent me a bouquet of dead red roses tied in a black ribbon for mother's day...all those things he's admitted in court, yet NO ONE seems to see that this is a problem. I tried, after the last "bad" website to get one of the security certification organizations to sanction him for violating "professional ethics"...just got a letter back that says, essentially that since these "acts" were perpetrated against ME (an ex-spouse) that's it's a personal matter and not worthy of review.

So, he DOES get away with it, and now, once again, I'm in danger of having him exposed to the kids.

I feel very helpless, because he can appear so normal when he has to, and no one who doesn't really know him could ever CONCEIVE that he could do these things. But, he has, we have all the evidence. But, it seems to do me no good.

Is this EVER going to stop? And, is there anything I can do to MAKE it stop?