it totally depends on the man, some are fantastic, some are great for a while then are not so good and some are axxholes from the minute they step through the door, but one will be exactly right for you, whether you find this one i can not say, some people do, some people don't, some find eachother young and some find each other when they are in the latter days of life.
Kissing and cuddling has to be a mutual thing, if either one does not want a kiss at the exact time as the other it can be awkward and even cause friction between the pair at times.
being in bed with a man can also vary considerably, some snore, talk in their sleep, even hit out in their sleep ( or even pee the bed), some are extremely gentle and loving, so there is no single answer to your question.
men are as different as the clouds are.

You said your so-called "friend" told you you wanted it because you were wet. This person is a potential rapist. He molested you, at the least. I don't care if were or weren't wet, or horny, or whatever. He didn't have the right to put his hands on you. He doesn't get to tell you what you want. You decide and you say yes or no. And no means no.

I'm going to tell you the truth, even though you won't like it. You're way too young to pursue a relationship with an older man, and still will be at 18. You're very naive and have a lot to learn about life, love and self-worth. You need to learn self-worth because you call yourself dumb and say negative things about yourself. You're not ready for life yet. I'm not saying love is all a fantasy and romance isn't real. But you're fantasizing it way beyond reality. You need to grow up, but you have plenty of time for that. Don't be in such a rush. Movies and books are fun, but they don't always depict life the way it really happens.