Hi TRFD,
I totally understanding needing to shop around after having a traumatic ending with a previous t. And I understand about little things adding up! I have qualities/ things Ifeel I need in a t that many people simply don't understand. But I know in my heart what's worked in the past, and when I've finally found what's worked I don't want to be trying out other stuff.
I'm glad you can see how this t did have positive qualityss but maybe isn't the right one for you. I think three meetings is reasonable. The intern t I'm seeing now requires six meetings, which is fine I guess.
Keep us posted on how it goes!