My mom always complained about her mom being mean and spiteful and from what I remember of her it is true.....and my daughter, whom I did my best to protect and keep my problems away from is probably BPD as well, whether from me or my mom or both I don't know but I know I was never as cruel as my mom. Four generations.... At least I know about it now and can help my daughter and let her know she's not alone. It's better than I ever got.