I just posted a thread about being stuck at earlier ages/stages. When my T and I did Internal Family Systems work in the beginning of my therapy with her, she asked "what does that baby or child need from you". I said she wanted to be held, and my T asked if "she knows I'm there". I, being me, the adult. I was never quite sure, so my T said to imagine a circle with her, my adult Self, and a close friend of mine, in a circle around the baby, passing her from one to another.

One time the child wanted T to hold her hand so she did, and that helped a lot. But the emphasis was always on me giving that part of me what she needed. I don't know if your T would hold your hand or not, but I still feel it was a very healing aspect of my therapy. Even though she won't do it now, I can still "feel" her hand holding that child's. It was a loving thing for my T to do to make that child feel safe. Sometimes she would take her hand away slowly and ask if I could still feel it.

Holding my grandchildren's hands helps me a lot too. Holding or hugging kids is a good way to nurture the inner child. I also love to hold stuffed animals sometimes. Soft blankies are an idea too. What about playing in the sand? That's something I do that my child parts love. They love coloring too, but you said that didn't work. So try doing something "childlike" that you like to do.

My T gave me homework last session, and that was to very mindfully put lotion on my arms every day. Doing it feels soothing. Maybe you could try that? Put it on all over and really feel how nice it feels! (if it does).

These are just some suggestions. I think having a T who is there for you and who will hug you is reparenting, too.

Good luck with this. I know it's hard!!