I'll answer you with a little marriage story:
The past couple weeks my husband has really been getting after me for leaving cabinet doors and drawers open- it bothers him, just close it for crying out loud, he says. I recognized my problem years ago when I lived by myself. I’d walk up the stairs and see the linen closet door wide open and think, “Who left that open? Well, it must have been me.”
The first step is admitting you have a problem, right? So I’ve worked on it over the years, and I’m 100% better. Of course, slip-ups are inevitable, if I’m extra tired, or in the middle of a project or if I’m in a hurry. I don’t know why I have this problem; is it genetic or (environ)mental?
So after my husband let me know how my deficiency was bothering him (once I left a dresser drawer open almost two inches!), I really tried to improve, because I love him. Every time before leaving a room I’d take a look around to make sure everything was in its proper place. I was genuinely trying to be perfect.
My husband's been so great lately, with all the yard work he’s had to do. So when he picked me up from work last week and we came home and the back door was open, I didn’t say a thing.
Then the other night I saw the bread drawer open after we cleaned up dinner. But I was doing the dishes-I didn’t put the bread away.
I called to him, “Could you come here, there’s something I want to show you.”
He blamed it on being exhausted and sleep deprived because I’d kept him up sighing, moaning and exclaiming,“Yowsa” in my sleep.
Last night he was in the extra bedroom moving furniture and painting. As I walked by, I noticed the dresser drawer open an inch. When I pointed this out to him, he blamed it on concentrating on moving heavy furniture and getting the painting done.
When we woke up this morning, I said, “Whew, I hope you didn’t leave any drawers open last night!”
“DICK!” he replied.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how you survive marriage.