Recently my husband decided that we just shouldn't ever have sex. He gets really frustrated with being turned down so often and knowing that it hurts me when we do have sex. I'm upset but also relieved. We've been married 5 yrs and sex has always been painful for me. I've seen doctors and specialists and none have answers. I've tried everything, and the only thing that seems to work is desensitization cream, which can prevent almost all the pain during, but it still hurts afterwards. I am small but muscle tension and tightness has been ruled out. My husband and I are firmly commited to each other, even if we don't have sex so I'm not worried about him leaving or seeking pleasure elsewhere, thus we feel like there is nothing really to lose by at least trying this. It's just that I can't find any advice on making relationships work without sex. Even sites for the physically disabled seem to be all about techniques to have sex. Honestly, my husband and I are more flirty and playful now than ever before in our relationship, and the relief of arguing and worrying about sex has been immense. I was just hoping someone else might have experience or know someone with experience in happy marriages/commited relationships where there is no sex.