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pammie said:
My beef is as a concerned sister who listened to this woman cry, complain and ask advice for 15 yrs, that now I am being asked not to bring up the topic because she doesn't want to discuss it. As a sister, I am very emotionally invested in the whole mess--15 years is a long time. I told my sister that my feeling are very hurt that now she shut me out because she made this choice. I know that just because she is my sister doesn't mean her life is any of my business but I feel very used. I'm good enough when there is a problem or she needs comfort but otherwise, bug off!

Can someone help me to validate these feelings toward my sister? Am I over reacting? I really do feel hurt and used and next time she has a problem with this guy, I really don't think I will want to talk about it! I need to get over it but I must try to understand my feelings first. Thanks in advance.

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Please know that most FEMALES need to VENT / TALK about their problems as a release..... to try and solve that which is broken, and at the moment the situation seems to be OK, therefore, she is not needing to talk / vent about the matter that was once so complex that she needed a FRIEND to lean on and to understand her from her POV..... and that friend was YOU.

Hang in there and do not give up or get angry if she needs to talk again, for she just might.
Your sister still needs you - just in a different way now..... try and be HAPPY for HER.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))