That's not being crabby, sadly many people tend to be that way, I find it all so common with relatives especially, they blow hot and cold, when you can provide for others, they stay in touch, act they care and are concerned with you, then after their needs are fullfilled (sp?) you hardly hear from them. It's easy to get to the point you feel used, and drained.
I have relatives who only call me when they are down or ill, only to talk about themselves, yet if I say anything of how I'm feeling, they suddenly claim they need to get off the phone, they are running late or need to get ready for something. I confess, I've been guilty if running on about how miserable I may be feeling,etc. but have grown away from that after seeing and hearing this coming from others about themselves. I use to call mainly to ask how they were, not to unload, amazing though, I do not get that much, soooooooooooo I no longer do as much calling as I use to, saves me on my phone bill too.
I'm rambling, but I hear you and wanted you to know I understand.
I'm thankfull for PC and it's members, I find it a comfort, my refuge.
Love to y'all,
Roe