I suffered my way through a year of therapy with a guy who was a lousy fit. The only really helpful thing he did for me was to refer me to my current therapist. The difference was like night and day.

I remember in one of our first sessions, the current t described what we needed to do first by telling a story. At the time he was having an addition, a playroom, built onto his house, that involved enclosing a porch. The porch didn't have a foundation under it, so it was a big project to put up a bunch of support beams. Those beams held up the porch so they could put in a foundation. Then the real work of building the room could begin.

I wonder if maybe your psychiatrist is thinking along those lines.....Maybe as your medications kick in and get more stable, it will be like a support around you. Then if you could get into a good fitting therapy relationship, there would be more support. You could have more stability around you to start to safely work on stuff.

When big feelings erupt, strong support is a must.

For me, finding the right therapist, who knew how to build that support first before going digging into the hard stuff, was a lifesaver.