I've been with my partner for years now, friends for longer and i've been there through some tough times but now i feel me being understanding and respecting that she sometimes needs space and time to go through things alone is being taken lightly and she has got too comfortable with it over the years and I just wanted someone elses perspective

If your still reading, thankyou it means alot and i'll give some more details
She has bad phases and good phases as anyone does, during bad phases I am aware they are happening but only because over the years I know the signs and signals from the small things such as knowing she feels like ODing from a text or larger more obvious such as seeing cuts that she can't hide from me

Anyway, she isn't big on talking about things and I have always respected that by not harrassing her - like i said i only know a lot of it is happening because i can tell, not because she has told me
I give her oppertunties to talk, i pick timings and environments that she is comfortable in and over text so it isn't face to face but she rarely takes me up on them and over time the rare times that she does talk are getting less and less and I can see her getting worse

I don't know how to change the routine, whenever I try she gets out of the conversation by saying she'll talk more etc but i know its just to shut me up
I'm worried that she's got too comfortable with my understanding and I can see her going down in a spiral and I can't do anything about it