Bless your heart. I'm so sorry this is happening. This is NOT going to stop UNTIL your husband realizes that he's an alcoholic and stops drinking. But for now, your safety is at stake. These RAGES are going to get more and more serious until one day he's going to hit you or worse. You have GOT to get out of there. This man is dangerous.

I don't believe counseling would help now. The only thing that would work is AA, but he isn't in the frame of mind to even SUGGEST it because everything you say, he goes into a rage! He's going to have to hit bottom before ANYONE can suggest AA.

You need go get out. Do WHATEVER you have to do to leave --- but get OUT. Take what is yours, and 1/2 of the money that you two have and go live with your daughter. I wish you the very best, my friend. Your safety is the utmost concern right now. The rest will fall in place later. God bless and please keep us posted. Hugs, Lee