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Originally Posted by JessForever
I have always wanted to become a mom, when I was about 15 I just really was hit by that wanting to become a mother bit I knew that it was not a very good idea to have a baby at 15. I'm 19 now, soon to be 20, and for the past 2 months I have been overwhelmed with the need for a baby. I have not told my boyfriend about it, I know that he wants to be a daddy but I don't think he would want one yet, he talks all the time about what he wants to do with his kids when he has them and he loves playing with kids and baby's that friends and family has. But I can't get past the need for becoming a mother, no matter how much I tell myself that I am not financially ready, and how it would be better to wait for a baby, I just can't kick that need for a baby. I have no idea what I should do, what do you think?
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Oooook - Here I go
To answer your question
"I have no idea what I should do, what do you think?" I'll tell you what to do - ignore the urges until you're ready! Seriously, just tell yourself that it will happen one day, when you're more stable. You are SO young, and you should REALLY experience life while you have no major commitments or attachments (ex - Children!) Often times people get this idea in their head about what motherhood will be like, some of it might be true but you REALLY don't realize all the hard work and tough times that come along with being a parent. Never mind the financial strain (which is HUGE btw...) the emotional struggle is tough as well. Are you ready to stop worrying so much about yourself? (How you feel, what you want to do for the day...spending money on clothes, hair, etc?) Do you value sleep? (seriously lol I'm not kidding) Did you want to go to college? Get Married? How bout travel or get a hobby? If the answer is yes to any of those questions, you should REALLY consider waiting until you're a little older and have had time to experience more of your life. I'm 26, I have a baby. I'm Married and we're not "broke" , it is STILL one of the hardest things, and biggest struggles I've had in my life. Please don't get me wrong, it's wonderful as well - there is no feeling in the world that compares to seeing your child smile, or laugh or meet milestones....but those are just some of the parts of Motherhood...
You say that your boyfriend talks about all the things he "wants to do with a child" I'm not sure he is (or you are) aware of the things you'll have to do
for the child. I could go on forever and a day.
Bottom line...just because you have the "urge" doesn't mean you have to adhere to it. Give yourself some time to enjoy your young life, and take things slow...there is absolutely no need to rush into having kids. If this isn't enough, feel free to PM me anytime, I'll fill you in on more of the "dirty details" of motherhood
And if you'd like to hear about childbirth...Ohhh. Feel free to ask about that as well. My epidural failed and my tail bone broke....not trying to scare you (ok, well maybe a little lol) just trying to help you see the reality of the whole thing, rather than just the "rainbow's and butterflies" part
I'd add more - but my infant is seriously screaming his head off right now.
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