It's easy to get swept away, especially when you were feeling maybe a little old/outdated/unattractive, to have someone shower you with that attention did feel pretty good.

I can empathize with you about moving along probably too quickly. I got engaged to my husband within 6 months of being together. I definitely think we rushed into it. There have been times when I ask myself, why have I stayed so long when I wasn't even sure it was the right decision in the first place.

You are in a more difficult position because of your children. It can be really difficult bringing 2 sets of children together in one relationship. It can cause a lot of bad blood within the family.

I agree with the first reply that you need to at least give him a chance with the couples counseling. I know you are unemployed and depending on your daughter, but that's what family is for. Families constantly either break apart entirely or they make up and change and work out OK.

You really have to decide what is best for your whole family, even if your kids are grown, you have to think about his kids, too. If you have to make an agreement like, what is OK to talk about and what advice is OK to give, etc, that way you won't step on eachothers toes and it will save you some arguments.

I hope this helps.
Lisa