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Open Eyes · 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by thebelljar12

Wow, OE. I have to commend you on some great advice and support. I really enjoyed your reply and I am thinking it through in regards to my family and my life/perspective. Thank you!

Well, if you think about it, if we take a wild animal away from the wild and raise it, it imprints on us. And because of that, we have to keep these animals in captivity because they simply would not be able to survive in the wild without their natural imprinting.

When we rescue wild animals, we have to be very careful, understand what is natural to their specific imprinting if we are going to do a successful release back into the wild at some point.

We have these jokes about "minni me" right? Well the reality is, it is true, we are no different from other animals/mammels, it is the way we are all designed in order to survive and thrive.

A long time ago, in the 60's I think it was, they did an experiment that spoke volumes really. They took an infant monkey and gave it a mother that was only a metal thing, no fur, no interaction, nothing. And they were careful that when they fed this infant there was no nurturing and warmth.

Then when the monkey reached adulthood, they took it and put it in with other "normal" monkeys, and this poor monkey could not interact and was actually "terrified" and escaped to a corner away from the other normal monkeys. The sad ending was that monkey had to be "removed" from the other monkeys to live out it's days alone.

We don't truely "educate" parents on "how to raise a healthy child", basically we simply allow people to have children and raise their children in whatever way they want to. And I have spent alot of time around families and children. And I am constantly seeing the imprinting. What I am also seeing though is the ignorance too. I have "yet' to have a parent know that a child doesn't reach a single personality until they reach the age of five. I have constantly seen parents order their children around and not think to listen to their children. I have met so many parents who talk about their children in way where they believe their child already knows more than they really know as well.

We are also telling our children to grow up way before they are truely ready as well. We have been pushing sexuality on them way too soon. I often skip this forum, because it is such a sad forum IMO as I mentioned. It saddens me to hear people "self blaming" and "questioning their self worth", when it is really not their fault, and as I mentioned have children in tow unknowingly passing on the confusion.

I met a very intelligent man and yet he so struggled and never married and he never really "bonded" with other men. He said, "I should just be grateful I have food on the table and roof over my head, the rest was up to me, and I messed up somehow".

Wow, this man grew up in a home with a very abusive father and it is no wonder he struggled so as an adult, even though he possessed such intelligence. And it is sad to see how he has blamed himself for what was clearly "never" his fault. This happens "all the time" because we seem to fail to recognize the significance of early childhood imprinting. We are all born with a clean slate for a subconscious, that subconscious mind is slowly filled with "core messages" and "how to's" that we seem to fail to recognize and yet, self blame for when the messages lead us to a disadvantage, very much like the monkey that had no way of knowing that he was not truely being "nurtured".