I agree. It is time your wife got on with her life. She cannot change the situation and being rude to you does not help.

Your wife's emotional maturity level will dictate how long she will treat you like this. As long as she is angry and hurt and does not do anything to work through these feelings she will blame you and want to hurt you.

She will also treat you like this as long as you let her. Talk to your therapist about setting rules for conduct during times spent with your daughter. She does not need to be exposed to these outbursts. Also, you can refuse to talk to your wife unless she is civil. She doesn't have to like you but you deserve to be treated with respect. Ask for it.