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Originally Posted by SpiritOfAStorm
No, she decided that she can no longer trust me and is not willing to risk being hurt further by me. I had a very similar situation with her almost exactly 20 years ago when we were younger...I am sure I was just as "sick" then as I was last year and surely should have been diagnosed as BPDll if there was such a diagnosis back then (was there?) because I was surely having a manic episode....I dumped her, quit my job, stopped paying all my bills, and ran off with a lush....then just snapped out of it about 3 months later...it was bizarre as all hell!
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The episode 20 years ago sure sounds like mania.
Having a friendship with a female in 2009, without having an emotional attachment to the female friend, yet running into the problem of the wife/ex-wife's belief that there was an emotional attachment... has absolutely nothing to do with mania.
Just no connection whatsoever.
20 years ago you met many very important criteria for mania - see in bold.
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not quite related, but still:
I think that you may suggest to her that she spend some time writing down her list of hurts, condensing it into some reasonable shape and form, and doing all of that at some point when the daughter is in school and the ex-wife can have uninterrupted time to concentrate on the issue.
Then she will send the list to you.
Maybe she will then limit the oral venting in the presence of the daughter.