((((Spirit)))) I echo the sentiments of the other members.

Your daughter is your first priority so setting a code of conduct is essential. You are role models and are setting the tone for her future.

*sigh* It sounds as if your ex is going to continue this pattern of negative behavior for as long as you allow it.

I hope your T will be able to provide tools so both you and your ex know it is no longer acceptable to treat you disrespectfully, and to either get with the program (learning to or regaining trust, practicing mutual respect) or it's over.

It's not healthy for any of you to be in this type of situation.