In a new town...sounds like the perfect time to make mistakes. I would say you're actually doing pretty well, and I don't see them as mistakes at all. Sure, they didn't turn out the way you wanted, and crappy feelings were/are involved (by you, by others) but it doesn't sound like it could be helped. The employer at the job set you all up and led you on; they are responsible for that. And as for the relationship, it's not your fault that things aren't working out the way he (and you?) Would like them to...it's just how it happened, even though I have to agree, telling someone who feels more strongly for you than you do them that you're not really into them is a guilt-inducing thing for me too. I wish you luck; I do think you should tell him, the sooner the better. He needs to know, yes, but it's also not fair to you to keep subjecting yourself to having to go through the motions while the guilt and disappointment continue to build. Good luck, and I sincerely hope things improve and you find your groove in your new town.