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Originally Posted by chris.Tina
Hi everyone,
I am in a desperate situation. I really don't know how to deal with a personal issue. I am in a relationship for a year now, I feel like this person is my other half. We don't have many common things, but I like him a lot and I am in love with him, even though he told me about his past. He was not a "good" boy in his sexual life. He never been in a relationship before, although he is 33 years old. My problem is not with him, we fight and we talk and generally do things that are supposed to be normal in a relationship.
My real problem are my parents. They used to like him, because he was a nice man, but they learned (not by me) about his sexual past, they asked him and he said it was true and now they think he is not a nice man and that he is not suitable for me.
Note that I still live with them. My life since then is a living hell. They argue with me, they want me to stop dating him and they are checking his past BUT my decision is final, I want to be with him.
Do anyone has an idea how to make them change their mind or even how to make them accept my decision?
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Hi,
I don't think you can make your parents change their minds or accept him, unfortunately. Parents do this sort of thing quite often. They want what's best, but instead of showing love and concern, they show disapproval instead, which makes you feel rebellious and uninterested in really listening to their opinion. Your parents are behaving this way because they care about you and are concerned about your future.
If my daughter told me that she was dating a man who raped someone, I would have an extremely hard time even allowing that person into my home, let alone give him my blessing to date her. I wouldn't care how "nice" he seemed or how much he appeared to have "changed".
That said, you are in love with this guy which makes it very difficult for you to hear what your parents have to say. I get that. Nobody can tell you what choices to make, ultimately. You are your own person. Try to make the best possible choices for yourself, regardless of what others say, and try to be as smart as possible. That's the best you can hope to do. Stay safe!