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Originally Posted by Leed
I may have misunderstood, but i don't see ANYWHERE, where she said this man RAPED anyone!  She said that he was not a "good boy" in his sexual past, which could mean he slept around, etc. But rape? Could be, but that's not what she said.
Tina, if he HAS raped someone that's a different story. Has he gone to prison? Has he gotten any treatment for this kind of thing? A little more info would be helpful IF he has raped someone.
If there is rape involved, I guess I would be upset if my daughter were involved with someone like that too -- but at the same time, depending on your age again, I wouldn't be able to make the decisions for you. I would hope that I had brought you up with better decision making skills than that. I certainly wouldn't want someone like that around any children of mine -- or potential children. There's a LOT to think about with this man.
Wishing you the best. Hugs, Lee |
I agree with you. I am certain that there was no rape involved, per OP. Rape is a crime. You do not refer to a criminal as someone who "was not a "good" boy in his sexual life". You refer to a criminal as a "rapist" without resorting to euphemisms.
"He was not a "good" boy in his sexual life" + "He never been in a relationship before, although he is 33 years old." ==> sounds like a person who had more sexual partners than the parents of OP find appropriate while not having had long-term relationships until this current one with OP. None of that remotely resembles having a criminal history.
However... if there is a possibility of his having a criminal history, then OP needs to find out, and not from him ("he told me about his past", "about his sexual past, they asked him and he said it was true" is all about finding out from him) but from public records. Sexual crimes/offenses are public records. OP needs to make a search in the sex offender database or contact her local police department and they will help her investigate his past for her.