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Originally Posted by manicminer
You may or may not remember me saying that I referred the guy I live with for the temp position out here at the mine.
I did this out of the kindness of my heart and to help ease the tension financial problems were causing at home. I did not do it because I wanted to.
We worked together before. He got me my original job when I moved to this area. I hated working with him and was elated the day he left for his new job.
I have enjoyed working here at the mine very much, mainly for the people. They are mostly kind, understanding, team players and we all have a positive working relationship.
I was hoping his attitude and anger issues had changed, but unfurtunately they have not. His attitude is all negative, all the time. He doesn't just have a short temper, he has no temper, exploding on vendors and employees alike. He insults, degrades, and yells at everybody.
He is very hard of hearing, which causes people to become frustrated with him as he doesn't hear what they say, or only part of it, and brings them the wrong thing or doesn't do what they actually asked.
He has some complex that he is above everyone else, and that to do anything for them is a waste of his precious time. He was given an invoicing type position to get him out of the main warehouse, but this has not helped the problem as he constantly gets into pointless arguements with the other office worker, who I happen to have become good friends with.
I've received complaints about him from every other warehouse tech, as well as several other employees. The added stress he brings into the workplace with his poor attitude and lack of respect and willingness to work with others only compounds the stresses of the critical job that we do.
He brags about the poor way he treats his fiance. He talks bad on everyone else behind their backs. Its like he's gunning for an imaginary "Asshole of the Month" trophy.
I'm at the same point I was at the old job: I want to punch his face in on a daily basis. And somehow he wonders why I don't spend time at home anymore. He thinks I'm obsessed with *****, as he doesn't think I'm actually serious about my relationship with my gf, when really its to avoid him as much as possible.
He makes me so incredibly angry, I just want to explode. I've been shaking all day since I got here. I want so badly to put him in his place in front of everyone, but I hold my tongue knowing that such an action would result in a response of "Well you can find a new place to live then," and although I'd love to, I'm not in the financial postion to do so. Not to mention I really don't want to lose the excellent hunting oppurtunities, and I'm a groomsman in his wedding in October.
More or less, I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and its significantly affecting my mood and well being.
What should I do?  |
Hey ManicMiner (cute username btw),
I feel so bad for you, that is a really crappy situation. I mean you basically spend every waking minute with eachother.
The way I see it, you can either confront him like an adult, or keep this all bottled up inside you.
I have a family member or two whom I'd like to put in their place and tear them a new "bodypart". But I do what my husband suggests and think about the consequences, like you mentioned that you've been doing for a while now.
I would set aside a time that you could just sit him down and politely make some suggestions about how he might adjust his attitude/behavior at work. Tell him that you've gotten the complaints from people. I mean, does he know that it's going on? Does he know people don't care for him?
I can empathize with having bad hearing, mine probably isn't as bad as his but, it can get really frustrating in social situations. I often times feel left out if I miss part of a story, or if I can't hear someone because their voice is too soft. This may be a part of why he's angry.
There's 2 possibilities, either a. he genuinely has no idea that people don't like him/his attitude, or b. he knows it and doesn't care. If he just doesn't even care, it's going to be hard to give him that kick in the bum that he needs to realize how difficult he is.
If I am being a certain way, most of the time I don't even know it. So if someone came to me and said "people don't like you because of x,y,z".. usually, I get upset/hurt that someone feels that way, I try to fix it. It's really going to come down to, does he care enough about you and your friendship to budge just a little bit to help make your life easier?....