alibaby- ok from my experience with odd is that i teach children with it who also have learning disabilities or adhd with the odd can stem from many things like boredom or anger anyway the first thing you need to do is you and ur husband need to be on the same page because odd children will set parents against each other you also need to be consistant with discliplinary actions ALWAYS! what helps sometimes is not focusing on negative behavior and rewarding the child for positive behavior but see this has to be all around even at school he needs to be on a behavior system with points and rewards and some consequences there is a lot he needs to learn these children seek structure but also need alot of attention

make sure the school is doing the right thing the process can be long and therefore hurt the child it sounds like he needs an out of district placement with small class sizes and individual attention acompanied by social workers in school and a therapist outside of school as well as after school programs....but you cant get these things if he stays in public school my class is all of 9 children with two aids so most the time there is no need for a child to act out because there are enough of adults around to help it gives the child a chance to catch up academically while receiving the necessary treatments to deal with his emotions and learn to express them

hope this bit helps! and most of the time the children grow out of ODD if the help is received

be careful and stand up for the childs rights most school districts will do anything to keep the child in the public schools because they don't want to pay for him to go else where they are cheap but they do have to acknowledge parents wishes so don't ever let them tell you you can't do something and always ask for proof of anything make them document it doesn't necessarily hurt the child's records if he is placed out of district but it will hurt the child if he stays and does not get the help he needs trust me ive seen it and once in a special school he can always come back to district when the time is right. i have seen kids change tremendously by pulling them out of public school into a school specifically for behaviors and ADHD and ODD...